**This is not the usual Monday morning-weekend recap, but it is something that I've had on my mind recently. And where better to spill what has been on my mind than on this little ol' bloggy of mine? If you're not into reading a whole lot of words, feel free to check back later today for the usual words plus piccies post** :)
I thought it was just me, but over the (snot infused) weekend recently, I discovered that I am not alone in thinking that a lot of the wedding finery is just a load of baloney. I stumbled across A Practical Wedding where there are plenty of other brides-to-be and brides-that-have-been that think the same way! Now, I am totally engrossed with all things wedding at the moment, don't get me wrong! But I'd been having a hard time reconciling all of the stuff that 'you just have to have' with my own image of what I want our wedding to look and feel like.
PK and I are after a low key, relaxed and fun event to celebrate our low key, relaxed and fun relationship! Surely it shouldn't be that hard? But I have been finding out the hard way that it seems everyone buys into the premise that a wedding has to cost 'x' amount with 'x' inclusions- especially after reading a few (too many) blogs and magasines focused on the subject. Almost every dress shop I entered (before finding 'the one') kept pushing me to try on the big poofy princess style wedding dress -so not me- even though I told them when entering I wasn't into that! Suffice to say that none of those stores got a sale from me! When I tell vendors when the wedding is to be held, I get mixed reactions- either I'm starting too early or too late depending on who I speak to!
Discovering this site has helped me re-focus and acknowledge that we are doing ok with our planning. PK and I have sat down and spoken about what is important to us about the day -primarily that we actually get married- and everything after that is gravy! PK is into his photography, so we are looking to have beautiful images that capture our day the way it happens (and PK is very particular about what he wants for this!). I want a small but enjoyable celebration after the ceremony, so we are limiting our guest list to those people that have been with us the whole way, the people we see most often and want to share that party with. Every time I tell people that, I get "Good luck with that!" Well, I thank you for your well wishes, but really- I don't want every one and their second cousin twice removed attending! Luckily our families are on board with this one so that makes it a little easier.
We're also invested in providing our guests with some entertainment or activity while the bridal party is off having photos taken. After having attended a few lately where the gap between ceremony and reception was filled with a whole lot of nothing we want to do something! We want our guests to feel included in the event, from the moment they arrive until they leave, even if they aren't a groomsman/bridesmaid or family. PK and I are excited about keeping this a surprise as well- we're not even telling our parents (who are kindly contributing to the budget) about it!
I've been going through all of the archives from the APW site, gaining fresh perspective with each post. For example, I wasn't feeling too enthused about wedding cake. I mean, I love cake -I love all dessert really- but there wasn't one particular flavour or style that was making me look forward to shelling out money for this 'necessity'. And then I read a post from a former bride who had cheesecake as their wedding cake. And I cracked a huge grin as I thought I love cheesecake! So I excitedly ran (ok, so I actually walked but you get the idea) to tell PK and he agreed that cheesecake was an awesome idea because we love cheesecake! Now we just have to convince others about it (including my mum who was rather surprised when I mentioned it yesterday).
Coming around to feeling comfortable with what might not be the expected path for wedding planning has definitely contributed to PK and I (especially me) feeling more relaxed about the whole thing. And that means now I can get back to dreaming about the honeymoon!!
Feel free to spill the beans below- how did you feel before/during/after your wedding? What did you stress out about? What was your favourite part? What was your least favourite part- would you change anything? End rant :)